Parenting in a gender-neutral way
Parenting in the first two years of a child’s life is crucial, as this period lays the foundation for physical, cognitive and social development.
Among modern parenting theories, gender-neutral parenting has become increasingly popular, particularly over the past 20 years, gaining mainstream attention through media, parenting books and movements advocating for LGBTQ+ inclusion and equality.
This concept does not have a single, definitive origin but emerged gradually through evolving cultural, psychological and sociological discussions. It focuses on raising children free from traditional gender roles and stereotypes, allowing them to explore interests and identities without societal constraints.
Gender-neutral parenting evolved as a response to feminist, psychological, and sociological critiques of traditional gender roles, reflecting a collective effort to promote inclusivity and equality. Feminists like Simone de Beauvoir, in her book The Second Sex (1949), argued that gender roles are socially constructed rather than biologically determined, laying the groundwork for questioning how children are socialized.
In the 1970s, psychologist Sandra Bem developed the Bem Sex-Role Inventory, promoting androgyny as a healthy balance of traditionally masculine and feminine traits. Theorists like Judith Butler further challenged the binary concept of gender and its implications in parenting and education.
In Italy, the Montessori Method, developed by Maria Montessori, shares similar principles, though it differs in focus. Montessori emphasizes fostering independence, creativity and self-motivation through a child-centered educational approach.
As with any approach, gender-neutral parenting has its challenges. Parents and children are likely to face criticism or misunderstanding, especially from those with traditional views. Some parents may struggle to create a balanced approach and children might find it challenging to navigate environments that are traditionally gendered.
Despite these challenges, gender-neutral parenting promotes individuality, equality and acceptance. Parents and children who adopt this approach should be prepared to engage thoughtfully with those who hold different perspectives.
Carlo Manca
